In the context of managing your money, I want to tell you the three words that put people into scarcity mode, and derail a money plan faster than my kid can eat ice cream:
They are: “𝐈 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 _____.”
This thought 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘮𝘴 so innocuous.
Yet those three words are responsible for about 50
% of my clients’ spending that is outside of their plan.
Consider that whenever you are telling yourself you deserve something, it’s because you don’t have it at the moment, you desire it, but you kind of sense that it’s not in the plan.
Very often, 𝘸𝘦’𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘪𝘵.
The thought “I deserve ___” often gives us a feeling of 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘦𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴.
And that feeling often has us take actions that are not in line with our
grander plans. We do of course deserve many things, like rest and to work in a safe work environment.
But 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐞 𝐮𝐬𝐞 “𝐈 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 ___” 𝐭𝐨 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐲 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐢𝐭 𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐬 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭 𝐮𝐬.
What if we replaced “I deserve this thing that I want now” with:
I desire my long-term goal.
I desire to be able to go to bed at night, without worrying about money.
You can choose to tell yourself you deserve this thing in front of you, or you can choose to tell yourself you desire what’s most important to you.
Whether you get to your goal or not will depend on how you choose to 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 about your life and your money.
P.S. If you’re not meeting your money goals, there are only two things to change:
1.earn more, or
2.get intentional with spending.
Many of us already know that, but we find it hard to implement.
In coaching, we set up systems that work.
And then we surface the specific ways you think that derail you from your plan, and we break through them.
All of a sudden, you’re doing things you never did before, and creating results you’ve never created before.
If you’re ready for that, reach out.
I can help.